on what has been blogged recently.

haha ok i know thats a really lame title, but i really dunno what to put in its place. but thats hardly the issue.

about the class thing, well i guess i'm used to having cliques around. maybe it's just me, i dun believe in being coerced by circumstances; so like water, i'll make myself comfortable and fit in (even as a sore thumb) wherever i flow. chinese high has bred me into such a social animal, i'll know almost instinctively the socially correct thing to do. or in virginia woolf's words, i'll be your "perfect hostess", like Mrs Clarissa Dalloway.

haha actually i have to agree with zhiyang, it also took my sec 3/4 class around a yr before i started feeling we were a class. and i had my own share of 'cliques' in this class as well. cliques are not always a grp of insecure, cocky pple getting together so they'll feel secure. sometimes, they are really jus a group of friends who hang out more together than with the rest of the class, just because their ba zi match better. subtle, but makes a whole lot of difference. well, pple in the "clique" i was in ask for my help sometimes, and i'll help them as much as i can.

well actually i think its quite impossible to be on equally friendly terms with everyone in the class. a relationship requires you to 'tou zi gan qing' and you only have that much gan qing you can tou zi. so naturally you tou zi a bit more gan qing in a select group of people you deem worthy of your investment (here's where subjectivity comes in) . its also self-preservation -- if you anyhow tou zi too much gan qing, and that person one day might just brush past your shoulder without even acknowledging your presence. thats when you'll start feeling stupid, having tou zi some gan qing in that person. its quite strong an emotion actually. so what to do? learn to deal with it, and remember, cannot anyhow tou zi gan qing lor.

on marriage, i think i know what lw is getting at. his big qn with no ans, so how do we actually KNOW there is no other person out there who's better than our present spouse? well i believe that big deal if there's a better one out there. you'll love your spouse anyway, along with his/her faults. so what's the issue now? there is none -- it's all in the mind.

--yunsong